Remember how I decided to do some on line dating a while back and then gave it up almost right away? After considering the issue I have concluded that it wasn't such a waste... I just needed to see the whole thing from a different angle. In my early years as a model in Mexico it was easy to meet people; there was always a party, a birthday, a fundraiser, an opening... There was always an excuse to get pretty and hit the city... With budget. Later, as a Flight Attendant, first in California, it wasn't that easy to meet people, but there was always a new lay over, a friend in that city, a cute passenger, a fun coworker... With not so much budget... But you know, either way, there was always an opportunity for me to dress up and have fun if I really wanted... and later, right when I wasn't looking, on a girls night out; I met my ex...
Three years later I found myself single again, but this time I was living in New York... Out of all places! I felt so lost like a needle in a haystack... and you pretty much know everything about that.
New York is one of the toughest and expensive places in the world: It is difficult to connect with people, housing is crazy expensive, but has one of the best culinary melting pots in the world... And it has plenty of single people wanting to go out and have a little fun... and that is what I fail to see before because my mind was in relationship mode... With that guy (my ex) only; therefore my little online dating experiment was doomed from the get go. I remember feeling sad because I was "dating" again (jezz!). Looking back on those months of dating, I have to admit, they were actually opportunities for me to see and experience new places, for drinks and dinner, with decent guys (I believe), with no drama, no attachments or exclusivity!!! And there was nothing sad about that, they made me feel pretty (and everybody likes that!). I was just not ready to let the ex go. So after considering this, if you are single and have your head clear, you will see that going out on dates should feel like going shopping for shoes... FUN! and the best part is, in most cases, they usually like to pick up the tab... If you behave like a lady of course! There is no need to take advantage of the situation... Or the guy.
The meaning of dating is to have fun, if you don't have fun, don't date! It is better to keep it simple and to hang out with the girls until you reprogram your brain. Being alone and/or single is not a bad thing! (It is actually pretty awesome to come home to my bed and my things :p ... ) Put yourself always first... second and third! You will see how the world opens up right before your eyes!!!
