Lets view more in depth my personality type, the Negotiator/Explorer
With Negotiator as my primary type, I can be:
-"Good at seeing the big picture.
-Empathetic.
-Imaginative.
-Trusting.
-Intuitive.
-Introspective.
-Skilled verbally"**1) chemistry.com
With Explorer as my secondary type, I can be:
-"Novelty seeking.
-Flexible.
-Impulsive and spontaneous.
-Open-Minded.
-Curious.
-Energetic.
-Creative"**2)chemistry.com
And, basically, this is what I was told about myself:
"You see the big picture. You easily take the broad, long view of almost any topic. You are comfortable juggling myriad facts. You tend to synthesize material easily and think in webs of factors, not straight lines. You are imaginative and enjoy ideas. You are also socially savvy. You are good at both talking and listening. And you generally read people's faces, body postures and tone of voice accurately, so you often intuitively understand what people want and need.You are also highly compassionate. You care deeply about others. So you are inclined to make personal sacrifices to be a supportive friend and colleague. And you are idealistic and altruistic; you like to work to improve the world. And you have an adventurous side; you enjoy new ideas and novel experiences and you want to share these with an enthusiastic partner. But you are particularly fond of people who are direct, decisive, focused and tough-minded, people who complement your more flexible, agreeable and affable style"**3)chemistry.com
This is how I relate to others in love and relationships:
"Relating to others as a Negotiator, you seek a spiritual, life long connection to a "true love". But you don't want someone who is emotionally dependent. You admire people who need a good deal of autonomy. Marriage is important to you; but the social pledge of matrimony is far less sacred than the personal commitment you privately make to your beloved. You strive for harmony in your primary relationship. So you express your love regularly - with hugs, thoughtful presents, romantic weekends or by creating other special times together. And you want a mate who is daring, playful and adventurous, yet one who will balance you - someone who is calm, decisive, strong-willed, focused and supportive of your enthusiastic, caring and imaginative spirit.
In love and relationships you dislike conflict. You seek "win-win" solutions. You are good at sharing power and ideas. And you are a master at the art of intimacy - building deep and exciting relationships with others. Nevertheless, you often enjoy solitude or intense interactions with just one individual or a few close friends. And you particularly enjoy people who like to play with abstract theories and ideas, provide insights, search for symbolic meanings in life and relationships and have a broad interest in the world"**4)chemistry.com
And of course here are the bad/negative things I have to be aware of:
"-Because you can see so many angles to an issue or decision, you can be indecisive.
-Your need to please can make you placating and your trusting nature can make you gullible.
-When you feel betrayed you can be unforgiving and hold a grudge too long"**5)chemistry.com...
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Movie Quote of the Day
-...After all, if I cannot change when circumstances demanded, how can I expect others to.
(Morgan Freeman as Nelson Mandela).
(Morgan Freeman as Nelson Mandela).
-Invictus.
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
The Dating... Site? Part#1
So a few weeks back I signed up for a dating site... And this was not my first attempt to be completely honest with you.
Right after my break up I got an e-mail from e-harmony (classic case of junk mail that slips into my inbox!), and decided to get my personality test and to "review my matches for free". It took me about three days to complete the personality test and when everything was up and running... I bailed!!
I got many e-mails from the site informing me that Tom, Paul, David (there is always a David), Justin, Ron, etc, etc, etc, were my matches and wanted to get to know me... just needed to become a member (pay them quite a bit) so I could see their pictures and such!! It overwhelmed me!!!. Too much, too many, too soon. 1)It is not cheap, 2)they do not really let you review your matches for free because you have to pay to see their profiles (they just give you names for free), and 3)felt a little dishonest with some of my answers. I know I'm a happy positive person, but I have not been 100% myself lately. Not even 50% myself. Some of the questions are like this: How have you been feeling this month? Answers (options): Happy, Depressed, etc, etc... you see? I've been able to keep me a float and that is pretty much it... and definitely don't want to tell every single stranger that I might go out on a first date with that I've been, mostly, depressed and crying myself to sleep for the last months beforehand...
In the months that followed that first attempt; I started receiving e-mails from other dating sites, such as match.com and, particularly, from chemistry.com. I guess one day I was needing some sort of attention and decided to do it. Did a little research on the site chemistry.com (a research that lasted about ten minutes) and got my personality test and my matches for free. However, this time I was able to see the pics and profiles of my matches, and what I liked the most was the approached on the personality test. Not that many questions (some seem kinda silly to be honest) and when you are done, they tell you in which category you fall into, and how you "click" with your matches.
There are four personality categories and we all (I think) have traits of the four. Mine goes like this:
-Negotiator: 31%
-Explorer: 27%
-Builder: 21%
-Director: 19%
After reading my results, things made some sense in my mind about my personality (not too far off), and after a very careful thought (that lasted about five minutes), singed up for six months! (My secondary personality type kicked in on this one... you see?!!... and it was not expensive)
In the site I am advertised as my primary type... The Negotiator! And I don't know if it's because I am a negotiator, or because we (all personalities) could be compatible with everyone on different levels, or just because it's just a bunch of bull (I am a little overwhelmed already), they pair me with every single personality out there on the site. I don't know if they just send me "my matches" or they send me everybody in the whole entire system!! I don't even read my matches, they are just too many. I just kinda read the ones that have an interest on me... and I say kinda because if I don't like the pic I just click "not interested"...
Right after my break up I got an e-mail from e-harmony (classic case of junk mail that slips into my inbox!), and decided to get my personality test and to "review my matches for free". It took me about three days to complete the personality test and when everything was up and running... I bailed!!
I got many e-mails from the site informing me that Tom, Paul, David (there is always a David), Justin, Ron, etc, etc, etc, were my matches and wanted to get to know me... just needed to become a member (pay them quite a bit) so I could see their pictures and such!! It overwhelmed me!!!. Too much, too many, too soon. 1)It is not cheap, 2)they do not really let you review your matches for free because you have to pay to see their profiles (they just give you names for free), and 3)felt a little dishonest with some of my answers. I know I'm a happy positive person, but I have not been 100% myself lately. Not even 50% myself. Some of the questions are like this: How have you been feeling this month? Answers (options): Happy, Depressed, etc, etc... you see? I've been able to keep me a float and that is pretty much it... and definitely don't want to tell every single stranger that I might go out on a first date with that I've been, mostly, depressed and crying myself to sleep for the last months beforehand...
In the months that followed that first attempt; I started receiving e-mails from other dating sites, such as match.com and, particularly, from chemistry.com. I guess one day I was needing some sort of attention and decided to do it. Did a little research on the site chemistry.com (a research that lasted about ten minutes) and got my personality test and my matches for free. However, this time I was able to see the pics and profiles of my matches, and what I liked the most was the approached on the personality test. Not that many questions (some seem kinda silly to be honest) and when you are done, they tell you in which category you fall into, and how you "click" with your matches.
There are four personality categories and we all (I think) have traits of the four. Mine goes like this:
-Negotiator: 31%
-Explorer: 27%
-Builder: 21%
-Director: 19%
After reading my results, things made some sense in my mind about my personality (not too far off), and after a very careful thought (that lasted about five minutes), singed up for six months! (My secondary personality type kicked in on this one... you see?!!... and it was not expensive)
In the site I am advertised as my primary type... The Negotiator! And I don't know if it's because I am a negotiator, or because we (all personalities) could be compatible with everyone on different levels, or just because it's just a bunch of bull (I am a little overwhelmed already), they pair me with every single personality out there on the site. I don't know if they just send me "my matches" or they send me everybody in the whole entire system!! I don't even read my matches, they are just too many. I just kinda read the ones that have an interest on me... and I say kinda because if I don't like the pic I just click "not interested"...
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Movie Quote of the Day
-... When you love someone you love all of them that's the job!
- I know that now.
- I'm so sorry! And now please, you gotta love everything about them, not just the good things but the bad things too. The things that you find lovable and the things that you don't find lovable...
- I know that now.
- I'm so sorry! And now please, you gotta love everything about them, not just the good things but the bad things too. The things that you find lovable and the things that you don't find lovable...
-Valentine's Day
I'm not crazy. I'm just___ (fill in the blank)
Sorry I have been away. After all that dirt that got stirred up again (you know him calling my Dad blah, blah, blah!!) I've been doing a lot of traveling to see my family (It was my birthday this week and could not bare hanging out in my ghetto neighborhood all by myself!!) and a LOT of hating (hate talking, hate e-mailing, hate dreaming)... Man!... I don't know, maybe it's just a lot of pain disguise in hate. It's such a draining feeling. Maybe I am fairly angry because he had the balls to be so coward! That's right, as crazy as this may sound...
I've been trying to finish the story "Game Over" that I started almost two months ago but I've been physically (literally) unable to do so. Right now, every time I think about the "wonderful relationship" with Mr. P I gag, feel nauseous... I just don't know from where am I going to get the strength to keep on going on with my life. I had forgotten how much hatred can be felt for someone once so dear... "I'm a good person I'm a good person" I tell myself everyday but being deprived from saying, face to face, the things I wanted to say, has proven, once again, too much to bare.
The other day I was talking with a new friend I manage to make on the 4th. of July ( of course after one too many margaritas I spilled the beans about my blog... not the best first "getting to know you" conversation). Tate pointed out, after reading my blog, that it almost seems like I'm obsess with my ex since I live in a such vibrant city with so many things to do and so many other people to talk about... And it got me thinking (and a bit concerned)... Do I really sound like the typical crazy woman? WOW! Reality check!! (always appreciated though).
Somehow (after doing a lot of thinking) I arrived on the following thought: if I was a guy, talking about the same things I talk about here, girls would love me sooo much I could get laid with a different one every night for sure!!! Handsome guys (If I were a guy I would be drop dead gorgeous!!) with broken hearts are such a catch. Beautiful girls (you know I'm pretty:-) with broken hearts are often misjudged (I think)... Anyhow, this is besides the point. The REAL point I'm trying to make here is that somehow along the way I failed to mention -sooner- a small but very important detail which is that I moved to New York BECAUSE of my ex. And if you think about it, a lot of my pain, anger, craziness, solitude, etc, etc. make a LOT of sense (Once I'm able to finish "Game Over" this feelings will make much more sense... hopefully). If I was still living in Los Angeles, where I was happy and comfortable on my own, it would have been waaayyyy easier. I guess it never crossed my mind that we were going to break up. Cocky of me... or just frigging "I'm sooo in love" stupidity... Stronzo di Merda!!! I should have seen it coming. I have no excuse... It's like LG happening all over again!
I've been trying to finish the story "Game Over" that I started almost two months ago but I've been physically (literally) unable to do so. Right now, every time I think about the "wonderful relationship" with Mr. P I gag, feel nauseous... I just don't know from where am I going to get the strength to keep on going on with my life. I had forgotten how much hatred can be felt for someone once so dear... "I'm a good person I'm a good person" I tell myself everyday but being deprived from saying, face to face, the things I wanted to say, has proven, once again, too much to bare.
The other day I was talking with a new friend I manage to make on the 4th. of July ( of course after one too many margaritas I spilled the beans about my blog... not the best first "getting to know you" conversation). Tate pointed out, after reading my blog, that it almost seems like I'm obsess with my ex since I live in a such vibrant city with so many things to do and so many other people to talk about... And it got me thinking (and a bit concerned)... Do I really sound like the typical crazy woman? WOW! Reality check!! (always appreciated though).
Somehow (after doing a lot of thinking) I arrived on the following thought: if I was a guy, talking about the same things I talk about here, girls would love me sooo much I could get laid with a different one every night for sure!!! Handsome guys (If I were a guy I would be drop dead gorgeous!!) with broken hearts are such a catch. Beautiful girls (you know I'm pretty:-) with broken hearts are often misjudged (I think)... Anyhow, this is besides the point. The REAL point I'm trying to make here is that somehow along the way I failed to mention -sooner- a small but very important detail which is that I moved to New York BECAUSE of my ex. And if you think about it, a lot of my pain, anger, craziness, solitude, etc, etc. make a LOT of sense (Once I'm able to finish "Game Over" this feelings will make much more sense... hopefully). If I was still living in Los Angeles, where I was happy and comfortable on my own, it would have been waaayyyy easier. I guess it never crossed my mind that we were going to break up. Cocky of me... or just frigging "I'm sooo in love" stupidity... Stronzo di Merda!!! I should have seen it coming. I have no excuse... It's like LG happening all over again!
Sunday, July 4, 2010
Movie Quote of the Day
-... I would rather die a man than live for all eternity as a machine.
- Why do you want this?
- To be acknowledged, for who and what I am. No more no less. Not for a claim, not for approval. But the simple truth of that recognition. This is been the elemental drive of my existence and it must be achieved if I am to live or die with dignity.
- Why do you want this?
- To be acknowledged, for who and what I am. No more no less. Not for a claim, not for approval. But the simple truth of that recognition. This is been the elemental drive of my existence and it must be achieved if I am to live or die with dignity.
-Bicentennial Man.
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